The People Who Help Make Us Who We Are.
Today isn't just about celebrating fathers. It's about recognizing the people who showed up, stayed present, and helped shape who we are.
Today is Father’s Day.
While I’m not a father myself, I do have a father.
There are so many things I want to say today that I’m not quite sure where to begin.
At first, I thought I would write a message to my dad and tell him how grateful I am for everything he has done to help make me the man I am today. He has supported me every step of the way, always encouraging me to become the best version of myself.
I also know today will be difficult for him, just as it is for every parent who has lost a child. As a bereaved sibling, I’ve often found that our parents’ grief is placed ahead of our own. In this case, that may be appropriate. Father’s Day is another reminder that my sister is no longer here with us in physical form. More than anything, I feel a responsibility to remind my dad of the incredible father he is and always has been.
My own journey has looked a little different. My wife and I chose not to have children. I know there are many men who, by choice or circumstance, do not have children of their own. To every man who has ever been made to feel that fatherhood is the only measure of his value, I want you to know that I see you.
I may not be a father, but I strive to be the best uncle I can be to my nephews. It takes a village to raise children, and I am proud to be part of that village. My value is not defined by whether I have children. Neither is yours.
As for the grief, I took a few quiet moments this morning. I put on a necklace with a charm made from my sister’s jewelry and spent some time thinking about her. I invited her to spend the day with our family. While I know she can’t join us from this world, I do believe she can be with us from wherever she is.
Today, I’ll be watching for the subtle signs that remind me she’s near; a bumblebee crossing my path, a song on the radio, the warmth of the sun on my face, the laughter of my nephews, or the simple beauty of nature around me.
However you spend today, I hope you find a moment of peace.
Happy Father’s Day.
Go with power,
Jason
Somatic Grief Therapist
Try this Simple Practice:
Gratitude Practice
When life feels busy, heavy, or uncertain, gratitude doesn't have to be complicated.
1. Pause
Take a moment to slow down and notice what's happening around you. Put down your phone, take a breath, and become present.
2. Look
Find one thing you can see, hear, feel, or experience right now that brings you joy, comfort, or peace. It could be the warmth of the sun, a loved one's laugh, a favorite song, or even a good cup of coffee.
3. Appreciate
Spend a few seconds intentionally appreciating that moment. Don't rush past it. Let yourself feel grateful for it before moving on with your day.
The more you practice noticing these small moments, the easier it becomes to find gratitude, even on the difficult days.
